Can you detach your child from the screen?

ipad kidsThe Campaign for a Commercial Free Childhood, is sponsoring Screen Free Week for April 29-May 5. Young children now spend 32 hours a week in front of screens – TVs, computers, iPads, and cell phones. Recent research on the effect of the overuse of computers and hours spent indoors on the vision of children strongly suggests that screen exposure be limited (Seppa, Science News, 2013; NAEYC, 2012). So…take a break next week and turn them all off.

Go outside and explore nature with your children. Play games together. Draw and paint with real art materials and make messy mud pies. Sing songs. Loudly. Dance with joy. In the evening talk about how it feels to think up your own entertainments,and end the day by reading a great book together.

Teach your children what to do when there’s no power – when the grid is down and the screens go dark - and you will have enabled them to be more self-confident, taught them ways to reduce stress, gifted them with better vision, instilled an appreciation for books and the arts, and shown them how to entertain themselves no matter where they are.

There’s another benefit. Elizabeth Marshall and Özlem Sensoy, editors of Rethinking Popular Culture and Media, ask us to use Screen Free Week as a time to  “reconsider our relationship with our media-saturated society and to ask whether these media support or undermine the democratic values we espouse.” Children need to be out in the world meeting real people and learning how to live and play with them. They cannot learn this from a screen – only from give and take with those who agree and those who disagree with what game to play next – situations that require the type of social problem solving that makes a pluralistic, democratic society work.

So give it a try. Can you keep your fingers off the keyboard? Can you detach you child from the e-notepad? Can you bury those cellphones? It’s only for one week…

Let us know how it goes.

You can find activities and resources for Screen-Free Week at http://www.screenfree.org/. If you are a teacher you can sign up your class to participate. Here are some other resources:

Find great books to read here. http://www.teachpeacenow.org/book.html

 

 

 

 

3 Poetry Books for April

April is National Poetry Month. What books are you reading to your children? Are they full of hippity hoppity bunnies and spring flowers? Nothing wrong with that. But how about trying one or more of these.

 Here are three poetic books to share with your children. Each one is completely different from the other, but each one has teaches empathy in its own way.

Lookinglike meLooking Like Me by Walter Dean Myers

This is a book about family and identity told in vibrant pictures and joyful verse. It begins:

I looked in the mirror
And what did I see?
A real handsome dude
Looking at just like me.

oneleafridesthewindOne Leaf Rides the Wind by Celeste Davidson Mannis

This is a counting book set in a Japanese garden. Each page is a Haiku poem describing something seen in a Japanese garden that also encompasses a number. It starts:

One leaf rides the wind.
Quick as I am, it’s quicker!
Just beyond my gasp.

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Let There Be Peace by Jill Jackson & Sy Miller

This book is based on the song written in 1955 and sung with the hope that it would help create a climate for world peace. In this week of talk of possible war with North Korea, perhaps we need to sing it again. This edition is beautifully illustrated with peace symbols from around the world by award winning artist David Diaz. It begins:

Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with me.
Let there be peace on earth,
The peace that was meant to be.

 

Here is the song sung with a beautiful array of images and quotes. Share and enjoy.

Albany says, “Cut Back.” We say, “Fight Back!”

community actionsolidarity By Tim Wolcott

Weather was on our side as blue skies and mild temperatures bathed the crowd of stomping, chanting Elmira Heights School District families, staff and friends on March 9, 2013. The stadium P.A. system beat out familiar rhythms between questions from an announcer that asked why some school districts must be forced to cut staff and programs while others are exempted. I felt a little out of place, having come from Johnson City, NY an hour away, but very proud to be among citizen activists who have suffered too long in silence. I was here as an educator in solidarity with a community under immense pressure by forces that are beyond their direct control.

The “Albany, Can You Hear Us? March & Rally” at Thomas A. Edison High School was created and led by Mary Beth Fiore, Superintendent of Elmira Heights Schools. Her considerable courage was more than matched by the support of community members and school personnel. Buttons were created and placards designed to get the message out – “Say Yes! to Equitable Funding for All Schools”.

As waves of over 750 chanting voices filled the football stadium (I overheard a person proudly say, “There’s more people here today than we get for football games!”) and meandered to the high school auditorium, I wondered what the negation sign over “G.E.A” on signs and banners meant. G.E.A. turned out to be the last straw that precipitated today’s event.

G.E.A. stands for Gap Elimination Assessment. It is an amount that is deducted from state aid that was previously appropriated to school districts. Governor Patterson initiated the G.E.A. in the 2010-11 budget as a way to close a $10 billion deficit brought on by the 2008 Financial Collapse. It was supposed to be a one-time requirement, but that hasn’t been the case. Since its inception in 2010, Elmira Heights has suffered cuts in aid totaling nearly $5 million while at the same time being required by the state to pay for mandated new staff evaluation procedures that add an additional $50,000 per year in costs. Other mandated costs in education were to be reduced simultaneously with the implementation of the G.E.A., but that didn’t occur.

The fundamental problem is that the formula that calculates what each district receives from the state is flawed. It maintains the advantages of wealthy districts. School funding should come from state and/or federal income taxes, not property taxes that perpetuate disadvantages to the less affluent local districts.

Elmira Heights isn’t alone in this dilemma. Schools in Elmira Heights’ B.O.C.E.S. district have lost over 600 professional positions since the G.E.A. cuts began just three years ago. Staff reductions included math, science, English and social studies teachers as well as music, art, language and sports programs. Ironically, these staff cuts have occurred even as the NY State Education Department trumpets its “college and career-ready” mandates. While the staff and program cuts continue, local taxpayers are still seeing their property taxes rise.

Salt was rubbed into the wound when it was communicated to the public that this year the school districts are getting “more” money. In fact, the additional aid is based on the already reduced (G.E.A. affected) amount. Consequently, Elmira Heights C.S. is allocated actually less aid than what it received in 2007. All the while, state mandate costs have continued to increase. One button says it all: given the current state increase in aid, it will take Elmira Heights 48 years to recoup the losses due to the G.E.A.

Increasing school district costs are not only due to G.E.A. “take backs” and increasing state mandates. The main drivers are increasing staff pension costs and health insurance premiums. However, pensions have helped families remain secure while simultaneously giving stability to the volatile national economy, and thus should be preserved. In contrast, health insurance premiums are bankrupting individuals and communities while making it difficult for American businesses to be competitive internationally. However, the highly profitable corporations that determine our health insurance premiums seem immune to regulation by our elected representatives. We need to hold our politicians accountable for this.

After the crowd marched to the school auditorium, Superintendent Fiore explained why the rally was organized and what was needed to be done still (see Toolkit below). Even when the chanting had stopped reverberating and people began to exit the school, the atmosphere continued to resonate with renewed optimism, solidarity and community awareness. The power of a resilient, unified community taking action to help one another and their schools is a joy to behold.

For a “Advocacy Toolkit” that offers resources to help your school district fight back click on http://www.heightsschools.com/uploadeddocs/advocacytoolkit.pdf

Let’s teach empathy

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Last weeks’ post was a harsh one. It is so hard to believe that any American would condone torture of any kind. Tom Engelhardt in his post “What if Iranians Waterboarded an American” turns the issue on its head. What if it were an American being tortured he asks. What if it were someone we knew? Would we still approve of torture or would we call it barbarian?

How do we teach our children to have empathy for strangers– especially those considered enemies?

To become empathetic people we need the following skills:

1. To be self-aware and able to differentiate our own feelings from another’s.

2.  To be able to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes.

3. Control our own emotional responses.

This is harder than it sounds because we learn empathy from when we are very young.

  • Empathy grows from strong trusting loving relationships with others. Only when we are secure in ourselves can we reach out to someone in need.
  • Empathy grows from recognizing how much we all share – how we are all human. That is why enemies are often characterized as less than human.
  • Finally empathy grows by being able to put ourselves inside the other person’s situation. Reading biographies and fiction about people who are differ struggling is an effective way to bond with and experience life for those who are different from us.

Here are some links to activities that help children develop empathy.

And many of the books and discussion questions found here will develop empathy. http://www.teachpeacenow.org/book.html

Do you love torture?

tortured heart2Do you love torture? Do you watch TV shows and movies where characters are subjected to intense physical pain? Do you play video games where you stomp on characters and mutilate them? Do you read books where evil minds and law enforcement design new ways to extract that important bit of information from the hero or the criminal?

Seems pretty effective in make-believe worlds, but do you believe that torture works in the real one?

Torture is defined as the infliction of severe physical or mental pain as punishment or coercion. If you want to know exactly what I am talking about How Stuff Works provides a list of the top ten torture methods and gives real examples. Check it out and compare it to what you love on the screen and in the book.

You’ll discover that fake torture is a lot like real torture. But that’s all right isn’t it, because no one really gets hurt in the pretend world?.

However, the following statistics collected by Bonnie Tamres-Moore in her article “Learning to Love Torture” show that public support for torture has grown tremendously over the last seven years. In 2005 85% of Americans opposed assassinating known terrorists. Today that number has fallen to 65%. In 2005 83% opposed naked chaining. Now it is 45%. In 2005 25% opposed waterboarding (which is suffocating the person). That percentage has dropped to 10%. The United States now ranks with Indonesia and Egypt in support of torture.

Sure people are scared of the terrorists they hear about on the news. But that isn’t enough to make so many Americans approve of torturing real live human beings. Could it be that being seeped in pretend torture while safely curled up on a cushiony sofa makes us inured to the pain of others? Or could it be as Tamres-Moore says that more believe that “torture is the tough, but the necessary thing we must do for the greater good.”

On the surface that sounds like at least a reasonable excuse - until you distill it down to  its essence which is the old truism - the end justifies the means. This is the historic justification for torture used by torturers across time from the Inquisition to the Holocaust.

Where do you stand on torture and what do you teach your children about it?

Learn More

Amnesty International

Interrogational Torture: Effective or Strictly Sadistic

The Legal Prohibition Against Torture

The Torture Myth

When Torture Is (And Isn’t) Effective

Which do we love more our children or our guns?

Wake up America! Which do you love more your guns or your children?

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Yesterday I received an e-mail from Teaching Tolerance an organization that provides wonderful materials for teachers to use in helping to create positive peaceful learning experiences for children. Here is the beginning of the letter:

December 16, 2012

Dear Friend of Teaching Tolerance,

When the news about the tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School broke on Friday, we quickly issued some advice for teachers heading back to school on Monday.
Sadly, we had that advice ready. In the wake of last summer’s shootings at the movie theater in Aurora, Colo. and at the Sikh Temple in Oak Creek, Wis., we had decided to write a magazine article exploring ways teachers could help students cope in the
aftermath of violence. We knew that, sooner or later, another national tragedy would provoke classroom questions…
On Friday, the violence happened in school, a place where each of you work every day and to which you will return tomorrow. Most of the victims are children, just like those you teach. Others were educators, like you, who died trying to protect their students.

What does it say about our country, when we have teaching materials prepared to address violent attacks in schools after they happen? What does it say when we recognize the traumatic effects on our children of even one such mass killing and we do nothing to stop it?

Schools have become fortresses with barred doors, ID checks, TV surveillance, and pulled blinds. Children are kept inside all day, windows and doors closed tight so no fresh air ever enters the building, and everyone stews in the funk of wet coats and old sneakers. All to try to shut out the violent weaponry that is legal in this country and the mad person who is free to use it to strike terror in our hearts.

Does a fortress mentality work? Should we now build our schools with no windows and no doors? Should we use technology to tell us someone bad is coming into our school? Lock our children away from their community and nature because it is dangerous out there?  No, the events in Connecticut prove this. No door, technology, teacher, principal, or teacher aide can bring down a determined someone with an automatic weapon.

Look at the faces of the murdered children. Look at the faces of the principal and teachers who gave their lives for them – the ones some people think can be replaced by robots or should work for minimum wages because it’s such an easy job. Honor teachers who give so much of themselves to the children they teach. Who work long hours after school. Who contribute their own money to fund their classrooms. Who stand outside a bathroom door while a deadly gunman rages and tell their students they love them.

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Ban assault weapons today!

Are You Stressed?

Holiday StressActivities for a Time of Stress

This is the time of year when we often think about peace and yet many times find ourselves stressed from holiday preparations and rounds of visitors.

Below are some activities that teachers can do with their students, and parents can do with their children, or that you can do on your own, in order to find a moment of spiritual awareness in the midst of chaos and focus on what is truly important in our lives.

These activities, loosely adapted from Nurturing the Spirituality in Children by Peggy Jenkins, are designed to take only a few minutes and to require only a few materials. They can be adapted to any age and size of group.

INSIDE:

  • MATERIALS: You will need a balloon. If working with older children or adults you may want each person to have their own balloon.

  • IMAGERY: Imagine the balloon is a person. Each person is filled with the breath of life.

  • ACTION: Blow up your balloon. SAY: We usually see just the outside of a person, just as we see the outside of this balloon.  But like the invisible air we blew into the balloon, it is what is inside that is important. The outside is just a covering. Air gives us life and enables us to have thoughts and feelings – to exist. Everything we think and do becomes part of our insides just like the air in the balloon. Slowly let the air out of the balloon.Without air - without meaningful ingredients - the person is without substance like a limp balloon.

  • DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:  What do we want inside us? What will give us the best ingredients to make a difference in the world?

  • MEDITATION:I will remember that what is inside a person is more important than the outside covering.

BREAD:

  • MATERIALS: An unsliced loaf of crusty bread or for a small group a roll.

  • IMAGERY: Imagine this bread is a person.

  • ACTION: Break the bread into various size pieces. Give each person a piece. Be sure to give some only crust and others ony the inside. Ask: Although your pieces are different sizes and shapes and colors, what can you see is the same about them? Elicit that the bread is all made from the same ingredients just as people are. We are all made from skin and blood and bone and muscle no matter our size or shape or color. We can all nourish each other.

  • DISCUSSION QUESTIONS: How should we treat people who are different from us on the outside? How do we want to be treated by others?

  • MEDITATION: I am a human being just like other human beings. We all deserve respect and nourishment.

BOOMERANG:

  • MATERIALS: A rubber band

  • IMAGERY: The rubber band represents a scientific principle called cause and effect. It also represents our actions

  • ACTION: Stretch out the rubber band and let it snap back several times. SAY: When I pull on the band and then let go it snaps back. My stretching and letting go is the cause or reason it snaps back – the effect. ASK: Can you give other examples of cause and effect?  i.e. yoyo, boomerang, dropping a ball. SAY: When we do something [cause it to happen] there will always be a result [effect]. If we act friendly we will make friends. If we help someone we will receive gratitude.

  • DISCUSSION QUESTIONS: Can you think of things you can do that will result in good effects?

  • MEDITATION:  We have the power to choose what we do. Before we act we need to think of the effect our actions will have.

After participating in one or more of these activities, draw back and using the mediations as guide reassess the nature of the gifts you buy and the actions you take. For example:

  • Will this gift serve only as an exterior covering and be something easily discarded or does come from my heart and does it touch the inner spirit of the giftee?
  • Is this gift I am buying created by workers who are respected and nourished in the way I want to be respected and nourished? Or is it made the cheapest way possible?
  • Have I made time to visit people who are housebound, sick, or in need and helped make their day a better one?

Here are some books about extraordinary gifts to read to children of all ages:

We love hearing from you. Please share your thoughts and ideas for ways to refocus on what is important during the holidays.

The arts are a universal language of peace

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by Joan Koster, author Growing Artists: Teaching the Arts to Young Children We may not understand the words in a song or the techniques in a painting from another time or place, but we can feel the artist’s humanity and … Continue reading

Delayed Gratification

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Who can wait longer for a reward? A human or a chimpanzee? In an article in  Eric Jensen’s November blog,  Jensen cites recent research that shows that chimpanzees can delay gratification longer than people. Here is an excerpt:      *************** …The … Continue reading

What’s wrong with this picture?

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By Tim Wolcott “Help us stomp out domestic violence – join Waverly Cares.” The President of STANYS (Science Teachers Association of New York State), my professional association, rallies us to implement Common Cores (national teaching standards) and SLO’s (Student Learning … Continue reading